the guru

i have this friend. she is the guru. she gives me the no nonsense approach to being a mum.  she tells me to stop being stupid when i am being stupid. she tells me what do when i am in a panic.  she gives considered calm rational advice. she has been there.  we are out of child sync but her words of wisdom are not preemptive.  she lets me figure it out but is there when good honest sense is necessary. if you don't just happen to have a friend like this, you should get one. gurus are great. and if you are super duper lucky you may find multiple gurus. in addition to guru numero uno i have a couple at work. i have one who i met through a friend. i have mumsy who provides medical guru advice. and i have baddaddy who though not strictly speaking a guru, does add a surreal silly sense of humour to childrearing which is always a good thing.